I completely relate. I know I will be cleaning that same thing up again very soon—but for now I can breathe. I also can’t handle going to bed or leaving the house with anything not taken care of, so it is definitely a trade off of time spent—but well worth it for my inner peace.
Thank you. I thought I was the only one. Everytime this gets discussed I hear it being dismissed as "why would I want to clean up when I could be enjoying time with my kids instead?". Well, good for you, but I don't want to leave in a messy/dirty place. That is important to me to spend time on. It's all about the trade offs, as you say.
“I’ve realized that this is because a pretty, organized environment brings me calm, while insanely cluttered, messy spaces slowly ratchet up my stress level.” - YES! Even pre baby, I had this debate with my partner. I'm trying to embrace a little bit of mess while also recognizing that tidying up makes me feel a lot better to embrace mess in other areas of my life.
I’m with you! I need a tidy space, too. And the act of tidying itself is also calming to me, so I don’t mind it being repetitive. 😄 I’ve been learning which messes to rest in, though, even if I still don’t exactly embrace them, lol. Sometimes the dishes or the laundry or *that pile over there* waits a little longer than it used to. 🤪
I’m the same, I like to clean up after my daughter. On the days when I haven’t, the mess is so big it’s such a bigger job! Give me 100 small messes over 1 accumulated mess any day! It just feels so much less stressful when it’s a smaller mess, right?
3, 7, 8 - I’m so with you. Who decided these foolish notions are what we should be embracing. I might not always have time to clean the mess, but I’m not embracing it. Sometimes my 5 year old even gets this (and understands we clean up messes, we don’t embrace them!!)
My partner always tells me to leave my pre bed house tidy for the morning but I can’t go to bed with mess, and I especially don’t want to start my day with that! I would rather stay up for another 20 minutes to do a tidy up
I completely relate. I know I will be cleaning that same thing up again very soon—but for now I can breathe. I also can’t handle going to bed or leaving the house with anything not taken care of, so it is definitely a trade off of time spent—but well worth it for my inner peace.
Could not agree more. The idea of waking up to a messy house... *shiver* I need that clean slate!
Thank you. I thought I was the only one. Everytime this gets discussed I hear it being dismissed as "why would I want to clean up when I could be enjoying time with my kids instead?". Well, good for you, but I don't want to leave in a messy/dirty place. That is important to me to spend time on. It's all about the trade offs, as you say.
And I think teaching our kids that we respect shared spaces by keeping them tidy is a valuable lesson, too :)
Yes! Such good reminders!
“I’ve realized that this is because a pretty, organized environment brings me calm, while insanely cluttered, messy spaces slowly ratchet up my stress level.” - YES! Even pre baby, I had this debate with my partner. I'm trying to embrace a little bit of mess while also recognizing that tidying up makes me feel a lot better to embrace mess in other areas of my life.
This is SO WISE, Sarah. A tidy space allows me to embrace other not so visible messes.
I’m with you! I need a tidy space, too. And the act of tidying itself is also calming to me, so I don’t mind it being repetitive. 😄 I’ve been learning which messes to rest in, though, even if I still don’t exactly embrace them, lol. Sometimes the dishes or the laundry or *that pile over there* waits a little longer than it used to. 🤪
This is so true - the act of tidying is calming. And yes, we just have to let some messes be. It is impossible to do it all.
I’m the same, I like to clean up after my daughter. On the days when I haven’t, the mess is so big it’s such a bigger job! Give me 100 small messes over 1 accumulated mess any day! It just feels so much less stressful when it’s a smaller mess, right?
Chelsie, yes! 👏🏻 100 small messes over one big one. I’ve never thought of it this way, but this is definitely my preference!
we are the same way... we put our downstairs to bed every evening and it makes all the difference!
3, 7, 8 - I’m so with you. Who decided these foolish notions are what we should be embracing. I might not always have time to clean the mess, but I’m not embracing it. Sometimes my 5 year old even gets this (and understands we clean up messes, we don’t embrace them!!)
Yes, 100%! My house is definitely not super clean, but it is relatively tidy. We gotta pick our battles!
My partner always tells me to leave my pre bed house tidy for the morning but I can’t go to bed with mess, and I especially don’t want to start my day with that! I would rather stay up for another 20 minutes to do a tidy up
YES! The idea of waking up to a messy house is the stuff of nightmares, lol.
Yes! It is so worth it!