"The problem is this: I am an anxious over-carer. It is in my nature to care, a lot, about nearly everything. This kind of over-caring often completely obscures my intuition; I can’t hear or see it when I am caring so, so loudly."
I'm an over-carer too. For that reason, I have completely stepped away from social media and turned 100% to Substack as my only "social" online outlet. It's a learning process.
Omg I loved this article.. this line especially “The problem is this: I am an anxious over-carer. It is in my nature to care, a lot, about nearly everything. This kind of over-caring often completely obscures my intuition; I can’t hear or see it when I am caring so, so loudly”
It is so true when we are stuck in our heads or in a comparing state the intuition is so clouded! I love that you have your own boundaries set with socials and not just an all or nothing approach! As much as there are times I have enjoyed the scrolling I know the mental effects it takes on my entire being, and try to just stay away as much as possible (and then the thing is you are in your life and forget about those things most of the time!).
Love your substack and look forward to following along 🤍
I'm with you, Jennifer! I can definitely tell when I'm spending too much time on socials and need to reign it in. I still find myself comparing sometimes, but it is much less now. :) Thank you so much for reading my article -- headed over to check out your Substack now!
I recently deleted my Facebook account, after being 'on a break' with it for a few months. I never really got into instagram so much, but freeing myself from FB's claws has felt like a real escape! Well done to you for recognising the problem and shifting your mindset so powerfully!
It is so freeing! When the amount of spare time I had narrowed so much, the decision was made for me -- I wasn't going to pour my precious energy into creating content for an app. It's nice now to only do it when I want to. Pivoting to Substack has been so great, too. I like it here. :)
"The problem is this: I am an anxious over-carer. It is in my nature to care, a lot, about nearly everything. This kind of over-caring often completely obscures my intuition; I can’t hear or see it when I am caring so, so loudly."
I'm an over-carer too. For that reason, I have completely stepped away from social media and turned 100% to Substack as my only "social" online outlet. It's a learning process.
It definitely is, Teri. So far, I’m finding Substack to be a net positive in my life, so I’m spending most of my social media coins here, too.
This line resonated for me too!!!
Omg I loved this article.. this line especially “The problem is this: I am an anxious over-carer. It is in my nature to care, a lot, about nearly everything. This kind of over-caring often completely obscures my intuition; I can’t hear or see it when I am caring so, so loudly”
It is so true when we are stuck in our heads or in a comparing state the intuition is so clouded! I love that you have your own boundaries set with socials and not just an all or nothing approach! As much as there are times I have enjoyed the scrolling I know the mental effects it takes on my entire being, and try to just stay away as much as possible (and then the thing is you are in your life and forget about those things most of the time!).
Love your substack and look forward to following along 🤍
I'm with you, Jennifer! I can definitely tell when I'm spending too much time on socials and need to reign it in. I still find myself comparing sometimes, but it is much less now. :) Thank you so much for reading my article -- headed over to check out your Substack now!
Good read Courtney!
Thank you so much for the kind words!
This is such a profound insight, Courtney: "I do better in every area of my life when I care less." Love this and the entire post!
It seems so counterintuitive, but it works so well for me! Only took me until my 30s to realize it. 🙃
I recently deleted my Facebook account, after being 'on a break' with it for a few months. I never really got into instagram so much, but freeing myself from FB's claws has felt like a real escape! Well done to you for recognising the problem and shifting your mindset so powerfully!
It is so freeing! When the amount of spare time I had narrowed so much, the decision was made for me -- I wasn't going to pour my precious energy into creating content for an app. It's nice now to only do it when I want to. Pivoting to Substack has been so great, too. I like it here. :)