I'm rebranding (my perspective) ✨

Or, I'm reframing criticisms into more balanced observations

I don’t know about you, but I’ve always been fascinated by personality typing systems. My first love was Myers-Briggs (INFJ here 🙋🏻‍♀️), and then I discovered The Enneagram, which I love even more.

I am an Enneagram 1, meaning I am idealistic, self-disciplined, responsible, perfectionistic, a champion of equality and fairness, and finally: very critical of myself.

You will know if you are an Enneagram 1 right away, because you, too, will have an Inner Critic. And let me tell you, she is tireless. Her powerful voice constantly evaluates everything an Enneagram 1 says and does, and it takes practice to recognize and diminish it. (She has a voice that carries.)

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Although I don’t think the voice of this Inner Critic will ever stop, I’ve come to realize that there is a softer side to her sharp judgments, more rooted in reality than lofty, unattainable ideals.

And so I give you:

Flaws I’m Rebranding ✨

A non-exhaustive list in no particular order of perspective shifts that reframe perceived flaws and criticisms into more balanced observations.

The Flaw: I’m too busy. I never have enough time for everything.

The Rebrand: I have a very full life. I have a job that challenges me to use my skills to their highest potential. I have two young, energetic kids that give me purpose. I have hobbies that I enjoy. I prioritize keeping up with household chores, because a (kind of) clean house brings me calm in a chaotic life. There will never be enough time, ever. That’s okay.

The Flaw: I spend too much time getting hung up on small details.

The Rebrand: My detail-oriented nature allows me to appreciate beauty, stay organized, and be empathetically attentive to others. These are strengths.

The Flaw: My kids’ ages still make it tough to get out and do things.

The Rebrand: Yep! Small children are a challenge and a joy—two things can be true. Getting from the house to the car can include an unexpected diaper change, a stubbed toe, an argument, and a meltdown, but here’s the thing: do it anyway. Get to the car, go to the restaurant, take the unexpected day trip. (No, not every day! God, that would be exhausting.) Although it is equal parts struggle and enjoyment now, eventually that scale will tip more towards enjoyment. It is a process.

The Flaw: I’m too critical.

The Rebrand: As an idealist, I’m always searching for ways to optimize and improve. This is okay, when done in moderation and with an awareness of what is actually achievable.

The Flaw: I stay up too late, scroll too much, and don’t read enough.

The Rebrand: Yep! All true. I did finally start a new audiobook though, so kudos to me. I am sure in a future season of life, I will prioritize sleep more. This is not that season.

Meticulously curated shelves, because attention to detail and appreciation of beauty are both assets, not flaws.

I am not advocating for toxic positivity, denial, or putting on a false, cheery disposition. What I am advocating for is making space for this reality: perspective truly changes everything. Life is complex — we contain multitudes, you know? Acknowledging the layers and duality of our experiences can open up the possibility for peace, acceptance, and gratitude.

Tell your Inner Critic to eat a snack and take a nap—maybe she’ll see things a little differently after. I know that usually works for me. 🙃

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